melissa, continued . . .

[melissag]

OK . . . so I as I was on my way out the door for the Dr. appointment, I get these texts from my H:

We need to discuss things with the kids. We are planning on painting their room so I told them that I extended my lease.

It may well be better to do it separately - I don't think I can fake not being incredibly angry with you during a real conversation and I think that will make the conversation worse. Let me know your thoughts.

(a) It sounds to me like he already told them; (b) why the F is he "incredibly angry" with ME??

When I got to the Dr. appointment, I said, "Hi H, sorry, I was driving so I didn't have time to reply to your texts, so we can talk about it later." Throughout the hour long appointment (most of it waiting around), I was super nice. H was decently pleasant as well, though he didn't speak to me unless he had to because I had spoken to him. For a few minutes I felt like crying because we were like a regular family. Ugh.

Then we went to S7's basketball game. I was nice and friendly. H was the same as before - did not speak to me unless I spoke directly to him.

After the game, I texted H, to be polite:

So that you don't have to wait for this to go through two lawyers - I will not pull the kids out of school for the Rockies home opener.

I went into yoga, and came out to these replies from H:

I can't say that I'm surprised. At least you saved us $250 by telling me directly.

If you're thinking I'm going to back down, think again. I learned during our marriage that only ends in me getting taken advantage of. So I'm sorry the kids will miss out in opening day, but I think that sends the right message about the importance of school.

Ummm . . . WTF?

I did get a tiny bit of comic relief bc he is so indignant about it, when the kids don't even have school that day, but overall his behavior is just very disturbing to me.

He seems to be fighting some sort of war with - WHO? Why am I the enemy?

HE LEFT ME. He wanted to get D. He said he is the happiest he has ever been in his WHOLE LIFE.

So why can't he go live his happy life, and leave me alone????

25, or anyone else - what am I supposed to do with this? Do I ignore his texts? Do I ask him why he is angry and validate? Do I go run and hide in a corner? Do I just continue to be nice and even keeled (as far as he knows), be cooperative (to the extent that it doesn't screw over my kids or me) regardless of what he does, and ignore his crap?

Uggghhh. I am going to yoga again tonight. H ruined my ohhhhmmmm.