Bond, I try not to be a blamer - my W does this a lot, and I disagree with it.

I find it hard to find the words/argument to persuade/sell her to go, and have come up with something like:

o I've thought a bit more about the shopping present
o yes, you are right, I don't normally like to go clothes shopping, but do enjoy finally getting and wearing nice clothing, also for her, and really would appreciate her help in finding a nice shirt or two for me
o we could also just window shop, and if there is something she likes, well, I do get to treat you every now and then
o I have no good counterargument to her not wanting to go or be spoiled, except that I'd like to have fun and spend time with her and thought she would enjoy this
o can I just order her to come with me "you must come with me, I insist"? Why should she?

I think there is just one chance left to make this sale and make the outing happen, but the psychology of it escapes me - thx -

Luke

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