I woke up this morning to find my wife wasn't here again. I expected it this time and coped a lot better than I did last weekend. Obviously, I've still got work in the detachment department to do but I've felt really good about myself in the past week. My main feeling at the moment is concern that she feels so uncomfortable with me that she feels the need to stay elsewhere. I can live with the 'she doesn't like me right now' part but the fact that she feels she can't stay in the same house as me without the kids around is upsetting.

My wife's attitude and actions toward me has changed since our argument about me not listening. At that time she also realised that I'm more like my Dad than she initially thought and told me so. Unfortunately, my parents come back today for a couple of days as it's D3's birthday on Tuesday. I've enjoyed the past couple of weeks without them here, despite my wife's distance from me, and I'll be looking forward to them leaving again.

So I start today with an empty but very messy house (thank kids). I've only got cleaning on the cards today until my parents arrive and then my wife and kids will be back later in the day. See how we go.


Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014