Separate and Filed walking on

[paul19510]

Journal: I still have a ways to walk. I need to transform what is happening with my situation into a "gift" or a lesson. I still focus to much on what W did or did not do that got me/us to this place. That will not serve me well going forward.

You and me both, Paul. I guess the good part is that we at least recognize where we ultimately want to be, and that we aren't there yet. It's just a matter of doing the work. Well, first, figuring out how to do the work. Then doing it. Glad to have my DB friends beside me on this walk!

thanks for the input M. right back at ya!

I told my older Bro about the coffee experience today. He reminded me that its early to worry about anything outside of myself and my kids. he is also D'd but met his current W 6 months after his M ended and he moved out. Funny, his current W was a long time friend of my W and we introduced them. They have been married almost 15 years now. He says his current W is a completely different person from his XW and happily so.

His current W tells me that the woman she's known (my W) for 30 years is nowhere to be found. Sad....they lost their friendship a few years back and it strained my R with my brother. That's getting back on track now. So many signs I seem to have ignored along my path. I have to forgive myself and let go of the regrets. that's my walk too.