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[MrBond]

"I recognize that. I apologize if I offended."

No offense taken. Many women feel that way and unfortunately, so do the courts. There are many sitches here where the woman was the one to walk away, have an A, etc. and yet they want sole custody of the kids and say they are better suited to be a parent than the H.

"There were a few particular situations where I went along with my H in order to support him, but I feel that the way he handled those situations was not the best for my kids."

But you also have to understand that he probably was doing it for the same reasons. He felt it was best for the kids. He wouldn't do anything to hurt the kids right?

"I felt that I let them down as their Mom by going along with something I felt was wrong."

He would have felt the same way. Trust me, I think every man on here can relate feeling overtaken by their W's decisions. That leads to the W not listening to the concern of the H.

"Was the way my H handled the situations objectively wrong? I am not sure there is an objective standard. I just have to go with my Mom instinct. Going against it didn't make me feel better for making things peaceful with my H. It made me feel worse for going against it."

Ane he also has a Dad instinct. You are seeing through the eyes of emotion. He is seeing through the eyes of logic and practicality. Most Men are problem solvers while most women are nurturers when it comes to kids. The key is to try and see the other person's point of view even if it goes contrary to what you believe. There are many times I felt shut down by my W because she thought she knew what was best for the kids.