"I'm not trying to prove you wrong, 25, or defend myself. I think that there is great advice in there, and I don't want to be bitter resentful lady. I just haven't figured out how to walk the line of trying to see the best in my H (or at least giving him the benefit of the doubt) while protecting myself from being further emotionally crapped on. How do I give someone the benefit of the doubt when he is coming at me with both fists up, flinging poop at me? "
I agree with a lot of what 25 says. It seems like she's a 4 agreements type of woman.
The way you get past getting emotionally crapped on is to not take things personally. It's hard stuff, but you have to act as if you are wearing armor and that emotional sh*t just bounces off of it. Sometimes you just have to do it. Force yourself to not feel a certain way. Fake it til you become it as 25's Ted talk says.
Just do it!
What advice would you give me about me knowing that my ex is going out with mr cool tonight. I have thoughts about them having sex. I feel regret, shame, anger, etc. I can choose to be angry or hurt, but I can also choose to be happy and let that sh*t bounce off of me. It's freaking hard. But I have to just do it!! Fake it til I become it!! I am a stone, unaffected!! Etc.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
