To be fair, you know us fathers also have instincts too when it comes to raising kids. The mother's way isn't always the "right" way.
I recognize that. I apologize if I offended. There were a few particular situations where I went along with my H in order to support him, but I feel that the way he handled those situations was not the best for my kids. I felt that I let them down as their Mom by going along with something I felt was wrong.
Was the way my H handled the situations objectively wrong? I am not sure there is an objective standard. I just have to go with my Mom instinct. Going against it didn't make me feel better for making things peaceful with my H. It made me feel worse for going against it.
If my H felt that his instinct was to handle it the way he did, and he wanted to honor that, OK. I get it. We see things differently. But I won't "sell out" to appease my H anymore. He can do what he wants, but I don't have to support him.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
