One year in but a newbie

[Lifes Twists]

Thanks MrBond,

Thats basically what I did. Unfortunately it was not mind reading as my wife spewed out a long tirade to me about my two younger daughters. She was angry and felt they had tried to sabotage her date the evening before. She feels that she has sacrificed everything for them and that is the thanks she gets. I told her I can understand how she feels. I suggested that she explore this with her counselor. I encouraged her to try the opposite approach with them by giving encouragement instead of discouraging them from trying new things and growing up. I suggested that she show confidence in them. My wife always seems to cast doubt on them that they can do it. Right now she thinks my middle daughter won't last at the college she has chosen. She feels that we will have to go there and bring her home very quickly. That she can't make it on her own. I told my wife that she should not be saying things like this to our daughters. She should be setting a good example of a strong confident women to them and encourage them as they start to go out into the world.
At some point during our discussion my wife must have realized that her dating was now in the open, that I was aware of it and had not reacted in any way towards it. She tried to explain it to me that she was experimenting with online dating.

When my wife threw out the idea of us moving back together as room mates to share expenses in order to pay for our daughters college education I was floored.

Does anyone have any experience with moving back in with the WAW as a room mate? Is she trying to cake eat? I know she totally under estimated the cost of living separately since she has suggested that she could move back into the house and use the spare bedroom. This is the absolute last thing she wanted since she has stated in the past that she would never ever be dragged back into living in that house again next to my parents. I don't believe moving her and the girls back into this house would help the situation. I believe it would just reopen old wounds and be a set back. Do I even consider moving into a new living situation with her and the girls? If I did I am concerned I would be troubled by her dating and would eventually show it.

Help!!!!!!