My wife has said that she wished she was good enough to make these changes. Meaning she wishes I had acknowledged those problems before now. That pained me to hear. Absolutely killed me to hear. Of course I think she's good enough to make these changes for. I was just too blind or stupid to recognize how big of a deal it was for her. And how big of a deal it REALLY is.
So, what did you say to her? If nothing, you need to tell her this^^^....
My IC is an Alderian therapist. The initial consultation is more fact-finding from what I understood. At the very end we went through a one-page assessment together and defined five specific goals for my therapy. She didn't really define any tools other than some abdonimal breathing exercises that she said will be needed throughout the IC sessions and afterwards.
Adler, Jung, Rogers, Satir and others, form the basis of the Essential Experience workshop. IT was designed by David Crump, a PhD and is now mostly run by Eric Hoffman, JD, PhD. I hope you'll check it out.
I think it's good that your IC set goals with you, so you can measure your progress. After a certain number of sessions (my most effective IC said "5-6)
if you don't feel that new behaviors are happening, you may want to look elsewhere. I doubt she is ready to give you tools yet, b/c the goals will guide that.
But be open to her help and see where it goes...I doubt she'll hinder your growth, but I know you want to be your best NOW...and I get that.
That motivation will help you.
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