And lets go with my first opinions: I am not here to judge what its right or wrong, I believe choices made us less or more happy but at the end they are choices and there is a beatiful option we have for the only fact that we are alive.
Now this is my opinion about affairs: An A its a choice, it might as many choices be conditioned or not, if my W comes back to me in a year and tells me: hey I wanted to divorced because I was seeing somebody... Its my choice to live with that or not..
When I came to this forum 2 months and a little ago, I used to say: if a woman cheats on me, she is done, there is no way to go back with her....and thats what I used to belief, I tought it was real, it wasnt real, if a woman cheats on me..its her choice...the same way she can buy apples or oranges, exactly the same, it hurts more but at the end its only that...a choice. Are you guilty of her having an affair? Well here comes the second question... Are you guilty of her buying apples over oranges? Nop You are who you are at certain time in your life and you can change certains things in your life unless you face difficulties...
If I have no idea that I have asthma how would I go to a doctor and work on a treatment for that? First I have to be aware of the condition, then I can face the necessary changes... Do you know how many people die without realizing that their spouse had an affair? I am sure more than once did that happened.
If my W never told me about D I would never reached this point, I would continue to hate gay people or inmigrants or black people... Do I hate them today? Thank God and life No I Dont!! Biggest advance on my life, so my experience to deal with acceptance had to be the hardest one I ever suffered but today thats the way I feel... You can look to the side and blame your partner and not look at improving yourself...but one day you will have to, and me personally I prefer to go to one D and be happy than to be M and be unhappy and not knowing why Again thats my choice...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
