I didn't see your last post till now. My IC said i should continue with coffee in the morning and lunches, etc. He said if my goal is to reconcile you should continue with that and if not tell her to do it herself. Should i just do my laundry and not hers for eg. When she does laundry she still does mine. When she cooks dinner she still cooks mine ...anyone else feel free to chime in Thanks.
I am not sure if this is in line with DBing, but I would probably follow her lead on this one. If she does your laundry, then I would do hers. If you are making dinner for the family, then I would not tell her that she cant eat it. If you made dinner and ate with the kids at 6 and then your W demanded that you cook for her at 8, then I would say no because she is equally capable.
Do you make coffee just for her or do you also have some? If you would still make coffee every morning regardless of whether your W drinks it, I would still do it. I think that your main goal should to continue on with your life and what you want. If you are making coffee, or doing laundry or making dinner anyway, then I dont see a problem offering it to your W. If you are just going it for her, then I think that you need to ask yourself why?
