You reeled me back from doing something silly. I was thinking of temperature checking because it has been over a year that we had any relationship talk, it never went well then, she made her intentions clear.
Regarding my own sitch, from the outside looking in it appears we are working on a R. However, I have learned - the hard way, and multiple times - that actually TALKING about a R spooks her and she pushes away hard. So I just roll with what's going on. After all, I don't *need* to hear what we are doing. It would be nice, but I don't *need* it.
Originally Posted By: Maritimer
Do the 37 rules get modified as time passes?
I don't think so, but ultimately the most important thing to remember is to do what works.
Also, if they dynamic of your relationship changes from trying to bust the divorce to accepting that the MR is over and you will be co-parents for the rest of your lives, then a lot of those rules no longer apply (the first 11, for example), but others are for your own health and will always apply (12, 13, 14, 21, 27, 36, 37).
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
