When things are good we dont see what is not working....because things are just working... She ask you to stay with the kids because she can clearly see that the H that she felt in love with has dissapeared, now the H is always available... He has no life and its always there....
would get the kids from school. I said sure. W said she's going to some going away party tomorrow night and asked if she should get a sitter ...i said I'll hang out with them ...maybe I should tell W to get a sitter and I'll go to a movie?
Yes, where is the problem on you going to a movie? Or catching up with old friends? Or going to the gym? Can you see the pattern? You have no life...your life is "put here the name of your W" so she is living your life....
I'm still making myself available ...I'll have to quit that ...definitely has been making W's life easy.
This is not about to making her life easy or hard...its about bringing back yourself...before you meet your W...did you do things for yourself? Did you had friends? Why cant you do that now? If you dont start doing that she will dissapear from your life.... Your life now its not very attractive for her... If she decides to stay with you...what can you offer her?? Where is the adventure she can have by going back with you the way she sees you now? She see a guy that doesnt do nothing...the most boring guy and meanwhile she watches tv and sees the commercial of Dos Xx and " the most interesting guy in the world" wow thats the guy I want... I am not telling you to climb the everest but to generate an interesting life dude, a life you enjoy because waking up its amazing... Waking up means I am going to cook myself that cool food I saw on tv and my kids will talk about it: mom dad cooked this chinesse pasta with shishito pepers that he got in chinatown and he also learned to say ni hao ma....that generates interest dude but you do that for yourself not expecting her to notice that change..
If anyone has ideas for someone in my sitch on how to get W to miss me or suffer withdrawl, please let me know.
I have been telling you....she will miss you or not only if you GAL, once she sees that you can have a happy and productive life without her, exercising, fixing the garden...going to the movies...making yourself love yourself....she knows now what you are doing every minute without having to ask you.... Where its the interest on that?
Why would I watch a movie if I already know the end??
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
