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[tbm4evr]

Thanks for taking the time to write all that. My W and I don't agree on everything but since the D filing I have tried to be non confrontational. I know my W's biggest problem with me is how I used to always be in her space ...needy, clingy, controlling ..unhealthy behavior patterns I am working my butt off to shed. So to the issue at hand, last night when I called regardless of my good intentions, she immediately looked at is as me needing to know where she was ..being controlling...she's lived with it for so many years that she can't see anything differently.

Your statement to ...accept how you are and realize that its necessary that you are like this, years ago you were different and there is no wrong or right in being just the way you are.... 

I dont think you have to accept how you are and realize being that way is necessary ...because I don't ACCEPT how I am right now...i do have unhealthy controlling behaviors that i got to let go of ...i need to GAL and be independent ..not focus my life on my W and kids ...where they are at, what they are doing, etc.