Need help saving my family - part 6

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I think if one day his children ask, "Dad, why did you fight Mom like that?" he can answer, with his head held high, that he did it for them.

Is the W a terrorist who is holding the kids as hostages in a basement That nobody knows where it is?
Nop, why the fighting? Has that fighting helped him in anyway? Nop, have things improved since he started posting? Nop

Human beings always go for the known and the hardest part its to go for the unknown.
I yes say accept and I believe in that, accept doesnt mean take everything I had never said that, it means to take a different approach since the way we did things before it didnt work...
When in all my responses did I told him to be a doormat? I dont think I ever did
I am giving him the advice of not acting out of fear, and not fighting but approach all this in a different way, because obviously he would not be here if he did things in a different way first place...

He is not doing things to protect himself but to prove her "wrong"
There are ways to protect yourself in this situation, and its your choice to do that or call your W crazy and attack her...
As I always say, when things get to this point you have to set boundaries, and find a way that will work better than just "fighting" for the kids....

He has responsabilites with his kids, keep going with those ones, keep paying and keep providing for them, all the other material things could be replaced, the thing is that you are in a defensive-offensive mood and your W too, either you calm things down or this battle could be an awful one hey but guess what , at the end you can say you were "right"

I am here to respond to this post and help him see a different approach, I am not here to recomend him to filled for D, Melissa and Paul, you guys filled for D and for what I see in your posts you guys seem very happy about it, this is a forum to save your M not to advice a person to fill for D and go into war...

I am sure there are many "I hate my ex" how to f your ex and make him/her misserable when you decided to D them" forums out there...

My advice here will always be directed to improve the person/point towards Reconciliation....