First, I'd like to give credit where credit is due. "that seems to have made you uncomfortable, I never meant to do that." (or something close to this) came from our friend T2. I failed to point this out in a previous post.
Job: "suggest rather than tell" I like.
Wonka: "discuss the differences between infatuation, mature love and that limerence" At BD, W talked about never feeling it for me, (I know, rewriting and script) and how it would be so nice to find that with someone for once in her life. My comment was yes, then after a couple years when that's gone, what then?
Several weeks later, in a discussion W snapped that she knows those (limerence) feelings won't last. So there does seem to be some realization of the types of love there. But yes, I agree it may be time for more discussions about this!
Most telling is W's behavior. Even though in the beginning she talked a lot about leaving, and finding "passion" (her words) with somebody new, here we are two years later and she hasn't done either. And she hasn't talked about it for well over a year now.
Meanwhile I've been the H only a fool would leave.
Even though the ants say it's time for some changes, I have to believe that what I've done up until now HAS worked.
LFW: Very wise words. Are they yours? I sometimes talk of getting antsy, and even mention ultimatums and such. But when it comes down to it I'm more of a calm, rational, and dare I say even patient person. No matter what happens, I'm unlikely make/take any hasty choices or actions here.
Eric: Yes, I do plenty of things on my own. I'm not going to list them all here because this post is long enough. I will say that it matters little to W. She's into herself and doesn't care much what I do outside. Hell, I tell her I'm going out to a meet-up group and she doesn't even ask where or for what. So all this outside stuff I do is for me. Exactly what I want to do and be. This being the case, I will add to or change none of it solely in the hopes that it will make her take note or turn around.
Thanks Team!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
