Do I explain to her after work today and when she has calmed down that I just wanted her to know i was home and relieved sitter and wanted to be sure I had the right phone number should anything have happened ....or just drop it all together?
Just let it go. Try not to get too upset about it and just view it as a lesson learned. I had the exact same thing happen two months after BD. The kids and I had been out of town on vacation (without H). I called to let him know that we got home and that S1 got his first tooth. My H literally chewed my head off because he was out at bars for happy hour and pissed that I was checking up on him.
Since that night in September, I have not called my H on the phone once unless I am returning a missed call from him. That night was a huge turning point for me. Let last night be a huge turning point for you!!
Try and set things up in advance so that there is no need to confirm who will be home to relieve the sitter. Then go about your plans and forget about your W. I know that it svcks and is so hard, but it really really helps to get off the roller coaster. She is a big girl and can handle herself. The less you know about her life the easier it will get, because there is nothing you can do about it even if you know the details. I PROMISE.
