Good advice.. anger would be easier I think.. I have a wandern trip planned in June..probably alone... good for the soul..above the Koenig See.
Weekends are the trick.. all of them, when he is here I am tense, when he is not I am lonely.. I know it is not about him..but seems to be.
Once the house is sold and I have moved I think I will better get myself a better life.. at the moment I know this is a temporary time and place..and hard to motivate my self..
So HELP with Sandis rules 1. NO PURSUING,REASONING ETC.. is asking how he feels pursuing. He has had depression problems..
If I ACT AS IF he says I am acting as if nothing has happened.. and he finds that annoying
IF I DON'T START A CONVERSATION BUT WAIT FOR HIM there is no conversation then he is annoyed we haven't talked...I remind him he can talk I am ready to listen but I have always talked too much..he too little... this is a hard pattern to break.
WE LIVE APART PHONE CALLS USUALLY MADE BY ME he seems ok with the contatc usually, the coach said to keep them co sisntent regular and light and breezy...60 % of the time that works..is the calling pursuing?
I am good with not questioning about whereabouts these days or reassurance.. Just unsure how asking about feelings/emotions looks..
Any help or advice ..dealing witha WH with OW wno is only here once a month?
