Thanks, folks, for pointing out who decides here. And must lead. As a friend pointed out, it is important for d16 to see that I do not back down from my gift. And we can always go window shopping...
By way of explanation as to why a 16 year old would say no to a free shopping offer (and the following come from W rubbing off on d16): frugality and Calvinist morality and recycling is good. Oh, and d16 boycotts certain brands because of ethical reasons.
I don't think d16 has financial fears, but do think she senses a looming D. Something started to slip out of her the other day, but then she clammed up, even though I asked, though just once.
I understand the need to reassure. I am obligated by law to pay for her until she is 21, and will pay (knock on wood) for her education (much cheaper or even free tuition here in Europe).
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
