melissa

[melissag]

Blues, I would love to get together for drinks with my DB girls!!

I think I am just lucky that this was a manipulation fail from the get-go; otherwise I probably would be on his stupid roller coaster again. It's a good learning experience though. I don't need to get on his roller coaster regardless. I just need to remember that next time.

I don't think he will be sending me any more of these emails - he copied both his lawyer and my lawyer. His L very quickly apologized to my L and said she had instructed H not to contact my L directly. So I am sure he got a talking to for that. And my L, who is pretty level headed, recognized it as a manipulation immediately, so I imagine his L caught it as well and knows he isn't helping himself. My L said it would make a good exhibit for the court if we end up having a hearing on parenting time.

He is holding your decision about D field trip hostage. Seriously, is this about an amicable R or control, H?

I think the only one he is fooling is himself.

Anyway! I am excited for our upcoming beach trip and baseball season! Also, our TKD studio offers week long intensive summer camps where you can advance an entire belt rank in a week (as opposed to the usual three months), and my kids want us to go together. I think it would be awesome to have that experience with them. The only issue is that H trains with us - should I worry about whether he would be bothered to be a rank behind us? I doubt he can do a week long camp since he works. (Which is lucky, since the thought of spending 6 hours a day with him for a week makes me want to shoot myself.)

I have been thinking a bit more about getting a job, and I know now more than ever that it's going to be really important to me to be able to set my own hours, or work from home, or at least work part time. I am licensed as an independent real estate broker, so I could do that . . . just need to figure out how to get clients!

I think once we get the financial stuff worked out, I will start to think more seriously about where I am going to live and jobs and all that. For now, I just want to try to enjoy life and time with my kiddos and hope we can all survive the D process while it's still going.

Was listening to Fun tonight in the car and thought of some of my DBer friends -

May your path be the sound of your feet upon the ground. Carry on.