Yes, I am sure they don't have school. And if H had thought about it for half a second, he would know too. It falls during their spring break - we are coming home from FL early so we don't miss it.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
That email was unreal. M-I wish I could come over and have drink with you because your H is resorting to petty almost laughable desperation all in the name of controlling you. Upholding family traditions, trips, etc are all in the best interest of your kids.
Oh boy, I can see how you and all of us get sucked onto the rollercoaster when you read things like this. I am glad you can take a step back and smile and not entertain that behavior.
He is holding your decision about D field trip hostage. Seriously, is this about an amicable R or control, H?
This is where I am so glad to have this forum. I have learned so much from others here that share their stories and from those that offer advice. You are armed with the tools to carry on without resorting to arguing with your H. I'm just so sorry it has to be this way right now.
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014
Blues, I would love to get together for drinks with my DB girls!!
I think I am just lucky that this was a manipulation fail from the get-go; otherwise I probably would be on his stupid roller coaster again. It's a good learning experience though. I don't need to get on his roller coaster regardless. I just need to remember that next time.
I don't think he will be sending me any more of these emails - he copied both his lawyer and my lawyer. His L very quickly apologized to my L and said she had instructed H not to contact my L directly. So I am sure he got a talking to for that. And my L, who is pretty level headed, recognized it as a manipulation immediately, so I imagine his L caught it as well and knows he isn't helping himself. My L said it would make a good exhibit for the court if we end up having a hearing on parenting time.
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He is holding your decision about D field trip hostage. Seriously, is this about an amicable R or control, H?
I think the only one he is fooling is himself.
Anyway! I am excited for our upcoming beach trip and baseball season! Also, our TKD studio offers week long intensive summer camps where you can advance an entire belt rank in a week (as opposed to the usual three months), and my kids want us to go together. I think it would be awesome to have that experience with them. The only issue is that H trains with us - should I worry about whether he would be bothered to be a rank behind us? I doubt he can do a week long camp since he works. (Which is lucky, since the thought of spending 6 hours a day with him for a week makes me want to shoot myself.)
I have been thinking a bit more about getting a job, and I know now more than ever that it's going to be really important to me to be able to set my own hours, or work from home, or at least work part time. I am licensed as an independent real estate broker, so I could do that . . . just need to figure out how to get clients!
I think once we get the financial stuff worked out, I will start to think more seriously about where I am going to live and jobs and all that. For now, I just want to try to enjoy life and time with my kiddos and hope we can all survive the D process while it's still going.
Was listening to Fun tonight in the car and thought of some of my DBer friends -
May your path be the sound of your feet upon the ground. Carry on.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
I don't think he will be sending me any more of these emails - he copied both his lawyer and my lawyer. His L very quickly apologized to my L and said she had instructed H not to contact my L directly. So I am sure he got a talking to for that. And my L, who is pretty level headed, recognized it as a manipulation immediately, so I imagine his L caught it as well and knows he isn't helping himself. My L said it would make a good exhibit for the court if we end up having a hearing on parenting time.
What a doofus! And to think that your H is a L too?! Go figure.
I also laughed because we only said I wanted to have the kids that day. Nobody said anything about pulling them out of school. They don't even have school that day.
Too funny!! He was so busy drafting his manipulative email that he did not even bother to check the calendar. I am jealous of your spring break plans! I think that I am going to pick a baseball game to take my little guys to this spring before it gets too hot. My family is originally from NY, so I am a die hard Yankees fan. But the Nationals will have to do for now.
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I have been thinking a bit more about getting a job, and I know now more than ever that it's going to be really important to me to be able to set my own hours, or work from home, or at least work part time. I am licensed as an independent real estate broker, so I could do that . . . just need to figure out how to get clients!
M - I think that is a great idea! My H is actually a real estate broker. He LOVES his job. It is hard work, if you do it right, but the flexibility can be awesome. There are so many possibilities. He works for a national company but runs his own team and has several former SAHMs who are now working as full time or part time agents. He also has one former SAHM and one mom who worked full time that wanted more flexibility that now work as his showing agents while they on getting their owner clients. They show all of the houses to my H's clients and then he negotiates everything. They get a share of the commission. If you ever want any recommendations or advice, let me know.
