Yep, your ideas/suggestions are a good way to get feedback from W on her thought process regarding intimacy.
One thing I do want to comment in regard to W's perceived lack of "spark" between you two. One way to approach this would be to discuss the differences between infatuation, mature love and that limerence that rH so eloquently explains in her thread. You might be surprised to hear what W's thoughts are on this...be flexible as each one of you will have valid POVs on this particular topic.
