More talks about the future. "What would you like to do, where would you like to be, etc" Listen and take notes. Show her that I have dreams too. Show her possibilities of working as a team to reach our goals. I actually done this early in the sitch, and we did openly talk about things, but she doesn't see any possibility of ever finding that 'spark'.
Touch more. Monitor response and go forward from there. If she pulls back say something like "that seems to have made you uncomfortable, I never meant to do that." Then ask WHY she felt that way, and if there is anything I can do to better. Maybe even ask if there is anything SHE intends to do about it.
Mention specific actions that would mean a lot to me if she did them... Brush hair, hold hands, hug, etc. Start small.
Basically, I want to explain that I won't wait forever for a physical relationship with my W, but hopefully without painting myself in a corner, where if I don't call her on it, then she knows I'm content with things as they are.
The problem is if I DON"T start saying/asking for more, I'm afraid I WILL eventually blow up and toss down a sort of ultimatum, and I'm not ready for that, cause as you noted UR, things are going pretty good over here.
If W could just find it in her to give me something, just a little, then I would find it so much easy to dislodge these pesky ants!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
