Oh, it's fun dealing with a WAW sometimes. She has been incredibly cold lately and even ventured into rude a couple of times. She's been sarcastic, disbelieving and unapologetic. She did make me breakfast this morning but seemingly as an "I'd better offer him some while I'm here" situation. I know it'sall par for the course and I'm dealing with it well. I feel more at peace with myself and more calm when she's around even though she appears tense and, in the case of this morning, downright moody.
Over the past week she has made mention of our finances and she wanted to discuss them yesterday morning before she went to work. She stated she was running out of money and it turns out she had. I wasn't sure this was true but she's been straight up with me so I assumed it was with some skepticism. The problem is I'm spending more than I thought too and between us we should be on easy street. This causes two problems for us: first, if she is planning something she may feel stuck because we don't have funds to do our own thing; and secondly, we don't have funds for GAL activities, which is a big problem as she has spent increasing amounts of time away from the house (I understand this is necessary but I don't want her to feel regretful about spending money and resentful for not spending it) and I can't start the projects I had planned to. I can't even fix things around the home that need fixing.
So now I have to start collecting receipts and really go over what I'm spending with a fine-toothed comb. My wife may not be my biggest fan right now but I'm sure she'll appreciate a few extra dollars to spend, even if she things she's the one that will have found it. Yet another thing for the to-do list.
Patience, B!
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
