Our decisions and choices have consequences. The WAW in a A, needs to face consequences of her choices. That's doesn't mean it's your job to punish her or even tell her what all those consequences might be. I'm just saying she will need to be taught her actions do have consequences. That may not been seen as the more popular side of DBing, IDK, but it is what I have seen that works.
The WAW in an A needs to realize she has lost something valuable. It won't be the same to everyone. You may never know what "it" is to your W. But every one needs to suffer some type of loss before they come to terms with their wayward actions . The waywardness is a rebellion. And that takes us back where we started with the lack of respect.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
