One of his biggest complaints was lack of respect from me Granted I had to think today regarding this issue am I arguining for the sake of arguining or is this what I truly feel. In the long run - will it truly matter if she goes 3 or 5 days a week to preschool. No not really. There are tons of issues that we will have to resolve together for our children. This one is not worth falling on my sword over. Thanks DBs - last year before BD I would have argued, pouted etc. and just did things my way.
Be careful with this, Mic. I think it is great if you are choosing your battles, and compromising as parents should. However . . . watch that you are not going against your values/instincts as a Mom. In the first couple of months of DBing, I was trying so hard to 180 that I think I went a little too far in agreeing with my H about parenting things. (One of his complaints was that I didn't support his parenting style and I would disagree with things he did/said.) I regret that now . . . I went against my own parenting instincts to the detriment of my children. It was nothing that will cause a lasting trauma or anything, of course, but it still bothers me.
But yes, I think the way to go is what you did - really dig deep and make sure that you are separating arguing/disagreeing with your H from your true desires/instincts. If you truly don't care that much, no point in battling. But if you do, don't talk yourself into caring less just to be agreeable.
Just my $.02.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
