Brian- Thank you, that makes sense. There really is no point as it won't change the outcome and may only drive her closer to OM. This is crazy-- I've changed so much, yet know I still have more growth to do. I can't control the work she needs to do, and really, only until we both have done our work will we ever be able to attempt another R (if we both want it at that given time). I'm just so sad for my sons having to pay for the mistakes of their parents. I guess being the best dad is the only thing I can control now, though.
