When to Give Up?

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Thank you so much for taking the time to reply ye21, its more appreciated than you could ever imagine & makes a lot of sense.

He rings you and text you? Ok fine, let him do that, dont answer, evenctually he will understand and stop doing that.

What if he wants to talk about the situation & how he's feeling about everything, still ignore? What about things like finances & children, ask him to text so I know what its relating to?
We own a business together so will see each other and have communication because of that, do I just keep it to strictly business and anything else tell him I dont want to discuss?

dont look for answers they will come when you are ready to receive them, this sounds very romantic but its just like that.

I've realised this over the past few weeks, the more i've searched for an answer the harder its become, when i've sat back things have begun to slot into place - only small things but its happened all the same.

I keep repeating the importance of accepting the things the way they are now and this is crutial if you want to have a chance of reconciliation, if you cant accept you cant reconcile, its so simple as that.

I'm getting there with accepting how things are, its a process and I know I not there yet but feel much better than I did a few weeks ago and much more able to cope with the situation than I was. Dont get me wrong I still have bad days where all I want to do it hide but i'm also beginning to see the positives of my situation and find ways to GAL.

Whatever he is doing, its his and only his responsability to one day look at himself and say, am I happy? If he founds out he is not, he will checkout how to improve his happiness and then he might call you back or not we just dont know, but its fine to not know...

He's admitted that walking away hasnt brought him the happiness he expected, I think he's beginning to realise that he needs to find happiness within himself first. I do truly want him to be happy, even if that isnt with me.

now thats all you have to focus on, sandi rules and yourself...why are you avoiding that?

Fear & guilt I suppose.... Guilt that if I walk away then i'm letting my children down, I know that seems insane as i've done so much to save this marriage but I still carry that guilt.
Fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, fear of making the wrong decisions, fear of being a single parent, fear of never finding anyone that will love me.... a hell of a lot of fear!!! I'm starting IC tomorrow so hoping that will help tackle and rationalise some of those fears and get them into perspective.