You are a motivated, driven guy so i have a couple of questions for you.....
The two of you grew apart. What is different now?
You bought some clothes and made some sausage but what CHANGES have you tried to make?
With the exception of your family back. What do YOU want?
Maybe you want to be that 100+ hr/week guy- If thats what YOU want for your life dont change.
Are you trying to win her families love in hopes they will influence her decision? If yes in anyway- STOP!
Say you get back together next week, whats different? What stops this from happening 6-12 months from now?
As for what you do when she talks about divorce. What do you want the end result to be? Do you want to fight her and "punish" her or do you want to continue to work on yourself? If you want more time you listen to what she says and make sure she does all the heavy lifting at all steps along the process- you will not "help" her speed up the process.
Again, Who do you want to be 5 years from now?
She needs to live her life and you need to live yours- make a calendar for who has the kids what days. If kids are sick and they are with you that day....YOU are responsible.
and......
no matter how hurt, confused, sorry, whatever you may be. Your 2 and 4 year old children are more hurt, confused, sorry then you- They get screwed and played no role. I hope to god both of you become the worlds most awesome parents - At the very least one of you has to do it because they have alot of questions right now.
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
