When to Give Up?

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Yes. Do it not to save your M, but to save YOU. You're on his roller coaster and you need to get off of it before you can start your healing process.

So I tell him to stop calling, stop texting, stop being nice, stop wanting to be my friend? Just cut him out of my life as much as possible to enable me to build my own back up?

He rings/texts me several times a day, why is he doing this if he doesnt want me in his life? I dont understand why he wants to share things with me and wants me to be part of his everyday life if he doesnt want me in his life?!

We can't predict what will happen, many of the LBS's here do eventually reconcile but it's after long months if not years of working on themselves and becoming independent, strong, happy people. Accuray just mentioned in another thread that the LBS has to get to the point that they really don't care what happens to their M, they are moving on and enjoying life regardless. It's at THAT point that sometimes the WAS looks back.

I'm ready to walk away as i've been given no choice, but its not what I want? To get to the point where I dont care about saving the marriage wont that mean i've given up anyway so it wont matter anymore? Right now I want to get myself out of this hole and find who I am again, it hurts like hell but I love myself more than I love any man and I know that I need to get myself into a good place regardless of him and what he's doing.