Thanks mel, unbidden. I did just change the locks and the security system on the house. I know there still is a storm coming and I'm getting prepared. The lawyer will have all the paper work she needs today so that ball is rolling.
It's sort of ironic isn't it? My W is trying to play the victim card because she says she was afraid of me and yet through this whole thing I've had a hard time even defending myself because I had it stuck in my head that doing that could hurt her. I always knew that she was the one person that could hurt me the most and that's proven to be true.
I never would have wanted to take my kids away from my W for any amount of time, I know how much she loves them. They love her very much too. I love my kids just as much though and I know they love me so, looking forward, the best we can likely do is share time with the kids equally and try to co-parent as well as we can.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS