Need help saving my family - part 6

[melissag]

Scorp, I agree with the others that you are sooooo not detached. But there is no magic bullet for getting there. Just keep practicing and focus on your kids right now.

I don't mean this to sound harsh, but your W cares about herself and ONLY herself right now (she clearly isn't even putting her kids' interests above her own!), so you need to be looking out for you.

I think one of the hardest things for LBSs is the sudden loss of the R - the expectation that you and your spouse are a team, that you care about each other, that your feelings matter. As you said, your W would have no interest in a hug from you right now. You need to accept that reality. That ship has sailed, and may never come back.

Going against your W's wishes, when her wishes are only in her own best interest, IS NOT WRONG. You don't owe your W anything other than basic human respect. You need to take care of you.