Separate and Filed walking on

[paul19510]

Someone reminded me today that my kids saw me as living unhappily for years and trying to fix it unsuccessfully. they saw the repeated rejections and my seemly just living with that even though it was not what I wanted in a M. they didn't respect it. they do respect me now. I stood up for what I believe. its not what W wants, but at least I've stated my case and I am standing by my wants and needs.

I think this ^^^^ is pretty important. I'm glad you are doing the right thing for you and that your kids see and respect it. It's one of the things I think about with D7. I don't want to teach her that giving up at the first sign of trouble is the right thing, but I also want to give her an example she can respect. It looks like you've done that for your kids!

thanks for the encouragement. I am trying..might not have done it all "right" but I am trying.