I find myself, after much studying on the subject, and being away for an extended time looking at these threads in a new dimension... Your partners respect for YOU
If the theory holds true that they leave due to a lack of respect for us (in my case because x was my "Mommy")The only way for a R to be successful is if new respect has been earned- but then it becomes a constant test.
I understand that W was "honest" when she told you that she felt the need to contact X. What happens if you say NO? Does she leave? Does she do it anyway?
She came back to you - you won! BUT has she left XAP? Its time for you to set some boundaries now.....this way its proactive rather then reactive.
I know you love her with all your heart- you have come through hell so please think about this. How much pain and guilt can she be in if she just absolutly had to contact Xap regarding her pet?
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
