One year in but a newbie

[Bunches]

I have to agree with A.S. if you try to talk to your W about D feelings you will be trying to control her relationship with D and from what I can tell is likely to think you have something to do with it. I think that is between her and D. You can't control that.

As for the money, if she is asking for help I would think you might could help her work out a plan to manage it and any instructions to keep up with it. But paying for it would really depend on how much and / or how difficult that is for you. Remember, she made this choice and made the financial mistakes.