I really wish her nature hadn't been to internalize things like that. There's some insecurity there. I have to learn how to make people feel that I can accept less than perfection. [upside: work to improve me]
You are judging her right there... And you ask yourself why she didnt came to ask for help with her financial issues?
I dont think she will come to you asking for help in that matter because she doesnt feel safe sharing that with you... She can see your standars in a daily basis.... When we are in a relationship sometimes we talk about friends or other people who has money problems while we are with our partner. For example: Wow Mike just called me and told me he has to go to court because of his student loans... I cant believe he was so irresponsable of not paying that back.. You say all that and your W its close to you listening to this... She is LISTENING so she underestand that those are your standards.... Will she come with you once she has the same problem? Nop But if she hears you helping him or not judging him for that, its very logical that she will ask you in the future for advice in that concern. So we basically are projecting via words to others who we really are and believe at that point.... Then dont complain if she doesnt consult you when she has that problem... Your standars are high and she cant feel safe around that, just look at how many times that happened when you were growing up with your parents, you didnt share everything with them because you didnt feel safe about sharing certain things.
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
