I'm in, Wife's Out - Pt. Two

[trc2009]

Here's the previous thread.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...696#Post2437696

Man am I glad I don't spend time w/ W in the mornings right now. Neither of us are morning people but both of us are required to be up around 6-6:30 (kids, work, etc.). I swung by the pickup my son for school before I went to work.

You could tell neither of us were really "awake." And any conversation is met with a grumpy, tired person. Neither of us are sleeping "well." According to her, she sleeps way less than I do. Generally, I'll get 6-8 hours of sleep. She says she's lucky to get 4.

After a month and a half of separation I'm learning when to avoid seeing W. Obviously that may not stay that way forever but for now it's probably good to avoid spending any time with her in the morning. Fortunately it's pretty easy at the moment because I'm typically on the "go" in the morning.

Anyway, I had a 2 hour initial IC session yesterday. I thought it went very well. We dove into EVERYTHING. Obviously we talked about my current situation but we ended up talking a lot of my family history. This IC is good. Definitely better than the MC we went to. I can tell those of you on here that are considering going to a MC/IC, make sure you do your homework. Find a PHD if you can. Especially for an IC. I'll be going back on a weekly basis for a little while. I think there are things from my family that I never realized were issues with me until she started asking questions. No abuse or anything like that (my parents are wonderful people), but even the closest of families can leave one a little messed up.

She gave me some preliminary tools to work on for my anxiety I've had, and she said that's something I will master by the time we're done because it also relates to how I react in tense situations. She said that will be a work-in-progress.

All-in-all, I'm doing pretty well. Tired because yesterday was a 12 hour work day with a 2-hour IC session mixed in. I went and worked out afterwards and I was just plain exhausted. I'm staying at the house tonight with the kids! That ALWAYS makes me feel good. Always.