My H is a WAS and is in an EA/PA with a girl he met in rehab, he claims its not a relationship and they only slept together once but he speaks/texts her several times a day.
He said he doesn't feel "that way" about me and that he cant see any way that we can get through this and have a future, he's completely unwilling to work on our marriage "right now". He has said a lot of typical WAS things and is blatantly trying to build a case against our marriage and trying to convince himself there is no way forwards for us. He's also said things like "we don't know what will happen in the future" and that "maybe we'll end up back together one day" but that's as far as it goes. He's never asked for divorce and its me that's brought it up to see if its what he wants.
He's been very clear that he still wants me as a big part of his life, but obviously not as his wife!!! When i've tried to cut contact and leave him to his life he's rang/text me constantly, sometimes with excuses (we have children and a business together) and sometimes just for a "chat" and every time we have NC slowly he begins contacting me more again. I suggested having a 1 or 2 month NC period where we arrange someone to go between with the children and make arrangements to use only email for business stuff and he replied "wow that's a long time not to speak isnt it" so i'm not sure what he thinks separation and divorce is?!!!
At the moment i'm doing 180 (as best I can to fit with the business, GAL and working on myself in IC - i'm trying to move myself forwards regardless of him and bring the focus back to me.
I'm just really unsure if i'm wasting my time on this, am I better just to walk away and completely cut contact with him except for minimal contact at work? Is there a chance here, has anyone been through simular and what was the outcome?
Any help appreciated, i'm so worn out and dont know whether to just give up and keep hoping.... desperately heartbroken and trying to make sense of it all.
Divorce Final: Oct 2014
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