NLT - sorry about the breach of security issue. I had this also, and ended up changing my screen name and not posting for a couple of years.
Sadly your husband's behaviour does not surprise me. They think they can behave like this and we wold somehow WANT to hang out with them. I think that money is some sort of symbol for them of entitlement. I remember my xh saying to me soon after he left that we wouldn't be as well off separately - I had that one worked out already, and the thought flitted through my mind as to whether he thought I wold nip out and buy a couple of Dior dresses to cheer myself up!
BUT they are most unhappy about our getting what we are entitled to. In retrospect, I think they wish they had a pre-nup in place that decreed they took all the marital assets,
In between the spewing my xh genuinely wants to hang out with me! Plan joint birthday celebrations for the kids, come to family celebrations, invite me to dinner with him and OW when we are all in the same city. I do not understand it and don't need to.
However, as MWD points out marriage, especially when there are children, is a long term business, and with a family wedding coming up the reality of the long marriage goes on and on, however much we try and move forward. It really is like the Eveready bunny.
Braveheart's idea is great - unfortunately the latest complaint is to the companies regulator and I and my accountant have a statutory requirement to respond to the allegations!
If I had done what he alleges, then it would be a serous offence, but I didn't. He simply either thinks I did or chooses to think I did. And still wonders why we can't be 'friends'
