I did get an apology.....and I do believe it was sincere. But nothing changed. He hasn't changed at all. I share this because I thought maybe the apology was a glimmer of hope that he was seeing the light and that it would give me some understanding and some answers. Not for our relationship.....that proverbial ship has sailed.....but rather for the kids. While their relationship is better it is because the kids are more accepting of his shortcomings (meaning his failure to show up, lack of calls, etc.). So, at least in my case, the apology provided no closure.
I have also had to deal with this for seven years and I have come to the conclusion that he is a lifer.....he will never come out of his tunnel. I will never understand how he could have hurt so many, but I have accepted it and have somewhat moved on. It's still not easy when he blows the girls off or makes an insensitive comment to them, but I have long accepted that I can't prevent or fix that.
You are incredibly kind and seemingly in a good place to be able to wish him the best when you think of him....and to be able to say he deserves that. I don't know that I will ever achieve that.
I'm glad to hear you are doing well and happy. You deserve that!!!
