She left - 2

[gogofo]

For my whole background refer to this thread
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2427663&page=1


The W and I are definitely going to have the R talk next week.

Today she sent me two text messages one saying "Hope you are feeling better today" which kind of keeps up with the small changes I have noticed.

The second text said "Maybe we can talk next week - really talk about this mess we are in. You didn't seem up for it last night."

So the second text was a slight surprise, but not a total shock. She had invited me over for dinner and to talk last night, but I have been sick.

I replied that we will find a night to talk about us next week.

This weekend she leaves for Reno to visit a long time friend who just had a baby. They have been each other's support for 20 plus years and have real talks with each other. When they have serious talks they basically say, I love you and support you but you are being out of line, if that is truly how they feel. They don't pull any punches with each other. It is probably safe to assume that our separation will come up when they see each other. I am also pretty sure that when the W first informed her friend that she left the house the friend called her a "stupid spoiled bitch" and asked her "WTF was her problem." But this was through the grapevine so I don't put much stock into it. But this friend would be the only one she would respect enough to listen to her opinion even if it did not agree with her's.

Right now I am feeling equal amounts of excitement and trepidation for the upcoming R talk. I keep reminding myself that I cannot assume what her thoughts are but still find myself swinging back and forth between her saying divorce or reconciliation. The next couple of days I will be doing some serious GAL. The kids will be at MIL until Sunday so I am going to try and go to a sportsman's expo with some friends and just do me until talk day. I cannot afford to waste energy or stress about all of the "what ifs" that may creep into my mind. It will be a good distraction.

I am prepared for the talk if it involves us talking reconciliation, because this is what all of us are working towards, and know that it will also need to be baby stepped and we will have to learn new R skills. I am scared too about reconciliation because of the possibility of getting hurt again.

What I am not prepared for is if the talk involves divorce. I will have to think this through and role play in my mind how I will feel and how I should react as this is not what I want, but I cannot control what she wants.

Any vets have some advice if the talk turns to her wanting divorce. I want to be prepared for what ever hits me.