Stadistically and by comparative what Paul say might be true....realistically its not... So lets focus on reality instead of what happened on the sitch of others... This is your sitch and whatever happens in yours might not happen in others... Dont read or try to as you said "decipher" what he is doing and why because there is no possibility that you find why he is doing that, unless he comes and tells you why he is calling. By knowing responses we think we will pass the hard times, but thats not true, when our beliefs start to form in our early childhood we basically start to think that if something its not the way we think, its "wrong" so here we are judging constantly and increassing, stress, sadness and feelings, we keep ourselves to standards... And if we dont fit those standars pufff then we are "bad" because of it... Well those standards are learned, what if I tell you that you can learn new standards? I was an abuser once, I treated an exgirlfriend really bad and she ended leaving me, I went online and the opinion of everybody...you cant change that and will be part of you always... 16 years after that I havent abussed emotionally or phisically nobody.. And I didnt went to therapy... I learned to manage my rage and the way I felt around others... Today I am separated from my W, I dont know if we will get divorce...but I accept her decission, she left 2 months ago and in this present moment I dont judge her... It was her decission and its completelly valid, she has the eternal and only right human right that we born with: "CHOOSE" yes she choosed that option...when she choosed that I didnt accept it, it wasnt my plan... I could just stay stuck and not move on. I decided to investigate and see how could I improve myself...and found the solution: acceptance. Nothing else, its complicated to learn to accept, but its more complicated to learn all the moral rules and judge the ones who doesnt follow them, because judgement its learned, acceptance was with us but at one point we let it go... So work towards that and just accept with a smile all he does...in the long way it will be more productive
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
