Part 2-H moving out

[Georgiabelle]

Thanks TL. I interviwed 2 therapists. I liked them both, The therapist I see was the MC my h and I decided was the best fit for us (at that moment. h changed all that later of course:). We saw her twice together where h said he didn't think he wanted the relationship to work-which I find to be odd language (semantics I know). He had noted that he suffers from clinical depression, major anxiety, anger, feelings of worthless, low self esteem, and shame. He also wanted to discuss custody. I saw some irony in that but that's my wacky sense of humor. So, she requested to see him individually 4 times after the first 2 sessions and I saw his anger and agitation rising with each visit. We had an appointment to see her together which he announced (or raged) 2 days before, that he wasn't going back to see her because she made it seem like something was wrong with him and that I had turned her against him. He then screamed that he wanted to see the other counselor and it was my fault that we saw her. Actually, she was next to h's office and the other one was an hour away. H failed to realize any therapist was going to request solo sessions with him due to his mental health concerns. I told him that we all have issues. You can imagine how that went over!
So, since he bailed, she can see me solo. It sort of helps that she met him as he has a tendency to rewrite history. Example, he told me and her that he went off his medication 2 vacations ago to see if he could feel my love. I asked the C if he told her that he drank a case of beer and pulled his pants down in front of his dad and brother and talked with his private part one day. She said he had left that part of the story out. H has a way of leaving out pertinent info. When he mentioned that he had told no one about our m, I asked her if he had mentioned that he was having an EA with a coworker and I saw play by play texts of her telling him what to say to me. (I just never told him I knew as I knew he would deny). Yes, that part too, had been left out of the story. She did agree that h never takes his responsibility in anything-it's always everyone else. She also mentioned that he may have some type of personality disorder. Sigh.

I have difficulty expressing emotions so sometimes I use cards to show how I really feel. I'm working on that, and I love utlizing the session to really get some of what I am thinking and feeling out. I am very open and have this crazy accurate memory, so sometimes I start going and it feels like a bit of rush. A sad, but needed rush. I am extremely intuitive and operate with a high degree of logic (lots of testing in my life), so we try to keep this in mind in sessions.

I'm looking at D support groups as well and need to find something for my kids. I like my C, and I know that working through these issues requires me to be brutally honest. There are folks who go to therapy for 10 years and never get anywhere because they can't bear to be honest. Look for someone who makes you feel comfortable. You may have to try out a few.

I know they say MC is a bad idea with an MLCer/WAS. However, looking back, my h was going to monster on something else and the result would have been the same. Just my 2 cents.