Part 2-H moving out

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H is on my insurance too, I can't take him off until I get the divorce papers next month. You have to show some sort of "life event" proof. So until then, I'm charging him for it because it comes out of my paycheck. Every 2 weeks I send an email with the amount owed and he writes me a check. I'm the same way, I was the one that handled the money so it was at least easy to separate out the accounts and now he has to figure out how to do it on his own. good for him. not my problem anymore. I just make sure my stuff is paid on time and that is that. Once the d papers come through I can also refi the house and get his name off of it, we'll see how that goes!! I actually think it will be empowering because I will own it and no one else and it just sort of makes me feel good. I don't look forward to all the paperwork though. As for sleeping, I tend to wake up during the night too - it's weird being alone and sometimes sounds will scare me. I watch the same movies every night in bed because I know what will happen and it puts me to sleep every time. I never get past the sorting hat on Harry Potter hahah. We are learning new strengths with our MLCers I think. Strength I never knew I had, I bet you are learning that too. You have to sort of learn it quickly it seems or I just spent all my time crying. It is less and less now for me anyway. Hang in there GB, good luck with your therapist tomorrow - I still have not made an appt but found a divorce group that meets for 6 weeks, I wonder if that will be helpful. MLC is so different that i'm not sure a regular D group would work for me but I am thinking about giving it a shot. Did you stick with the first therapist you found? I wondered how you know they're the "right" one.