Learning to detach will be the most important thing you can do. Also focus on you and GAL. Act "as if" he's never coming back. For me the old marriage is dead and gone, I threw everything away, every photo, any reminder. I don't even want that old marriage back. I want him back of course but hoping for the new improved version when he comes out of this tunnel - IF he ever comes out of the tunnel and when he does IF he has contact with me again. Unfortunately there's a chance he won't so I have to just put that aside and focus on my life, my goals, without him. I still have hope, there's always hope. Giving him what he wants (space) is a good idea. I am giving mine space too - letting him figure it out on his own. We can't help, we can't fix it, just have to let them go through it on their own. It's hard to accept.
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
