Need help saving my family - part 5

[unbidden]

I would tweak it just a bit to say the following. Others can chime in with their advice/comments --

W, I note that you have not responded to my repeated requests that we work out an amicable timesharing arrangement that allows us both to share time with our children equally. It is not good for our children that you to continue to stonewall on this issue. I will discuss the financial matters between us when we have a parenting agreement in place that provides for us to share time with the kids equally. The children need both of us in their lives on a meaningful basis.

[cat04]

Too wordy. And accusatory. No need to inflame the situation anymore than it already is.

Follow what Mach said. Simple, direct, no room for misinterpretation.

[Mach1]

I would tweak it just a bit to say the following. Others can chime in with their advice/comments --

W, I note that you have not responded to my repeated requests that we work out an amicable timesharing arrangement that allows us both to share time with our children equally. It is not good for our children that you to continue to stonewall on this issue. I will discuss the financial matters between us when we have a parenting agreement in place that provides for us to share time with the kids equally. The children need both of us in their lives on a meaningful basis.

I like that ^^^

My thoughts are, that given the history of their interactions lately, she will take that as an opportunity to attack him, and tell him that he has no clue what is best for the kids. More spewing and a lot of room for more ignoring the point that he is trying to address.

It is also a tad bit accusatory, which will not be overlooked by her.

Is she stonewalling him ???

Probably, yet pointing that out will get his eyes scratched out...and Scorp here is pretty good at stonewalling himself too...


Just my thoughts though....

[Scorp7]

I like your idea unbidden, what if I just went with:

W, I note that you have not responded to my repeated requests that we work out an amicable timesharing arrangement that allows us both to share time with our children equally. I will discuss the financial matters between us when we have a parenting agreement in place that provides for us to share time with the kids equally.

[unbidden]

Yes, that works.

[Scorp7]

I like the other points you made too unbidden. My girls keep asking me when I'm moving there so that they can see me all the time. I just keep telling them I hope it's soon.

[Drew]

Where is the best place for your girls to live?

[Scorp7]

The BEST place was back in Alberta where I am. I think my W and I can both provide them with good homes. I can provide for them better financially. They want to be with both of us.

[Drew]

I didn't say was, I said IS.

You really need to get your head around the ways things are NOW.

Are you seeing a counselor?

[Scorp7]

LOL, Alberta was and IS the best place. My W is living in a very poor area with one of the highest crime rates in the country.

Yes, I've been seeing a IC since this all began.