I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

GAL cannot be understated. This has probably been the worst winter on record for those of us in cold areas who are going through marital problems/separation/divorce.

I have so many hobbies that are summer oriented. I'd kill to be able to go outside and work on my yard for a couple of hours!

In my downtime, I do my very best to keep myself busy. At least when I don't have my kids. When I have them, my attention is 100% dedicated to them....as it should be. I've been working out which has helped in so many ways. It makes you feel better, it helps with confidence, and is a great way to relieve stress. On the weekends when I don't have the kids, I make sure I'm spending time w/ friends/family that I would not have had time for during my M.

When spring rolls around it should be much easier to find things to do. I've found when I stop to think, it doesn't do me any good. I think I have detatched somewhat. Physically? Yes. Of all of Sandi's rules, I have done a good job of not overstaying my welcome, acting eager, following, etc. I've "acted" as if. At least as much as someone who co-parents with their WAS can. No contact isn't an option in our case.

And I agree that my sitch is so much better than so many of the fine people here in terms of being a LBS.

My wife has indicated so many things that are positive.

-She doesn't hate me. In fact, she considers me one of, if not her best friend.
-She isn't sure if she is going to file for D or not even though she's leaning that way.
-She has indicated that in the event of D, she would like both of us to have shared custody.
-We don't disagree about money. We have money "stress" like every other married couple, but neither of us has a spending habit or is trying to hide money, etc.
-We generally can be around each other and not want to rip each others heads off.
-She has indicated that she agrees that if we REALLY wanted to give our M a chance, at some point or another we will probably have to live under the same roof again.
-She has taken an interest in my IC and is glad that I am doing so. She has indicated that it may not change the way she feels about our sitch but I think that is a perfectly fair statement on her part.
-She has told me the idea of dating/seeing someone in the event of D makes her sick to even think about. To quote her "not too many good guys out there willing to date a divorced, single mom of two who is only 27, doesn't have a job, and doesn't want more kids." I honestly didn't know what to say about that when she said it this past weekend.

These are all things I KNOW. 25, you are right about the mind reading. If you catch me doing it on here, please continue to call me out. I need help with that. Sometimes I guess I don't even realize I'm doing it. Another topic of discussion for my IC!