Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Originally Posted By: paul19510

Why do I continue to question something that was clearly not healthy for me? Moving on is the correct thing at this point. Why do I feel torn today? W will never know. I guess days like this just happen. Trying to let it ride.


Yes, days like that do happen even years later (as I've learned!) Sometimes your feelings will pop up at the strangest times and for seemingly no reason. The key is not to worry about why you feel that way, but just let yourself feel that way. The book "The Happiness Trap" gives some really great insight into feelings, and that no feelings are really "good" or "bad", that's just meaning we assign to them. ALL feelings are valid and we shouldn't fight them or push them away, but we also shouldn't let them take over our lives. Experience the feelings, let them flow through you like water across a creek bed and don't fret over what they mean.
AS this is good stuff. I was starting to think like this a little today. I even visualized it like water...lol I have the weirdest urge to call W and say...."WHY??? do we need to do this????...." I won't get an answer and I'm not going to do it. I'm just writing it here. UGH. Today is good in many ways and tomorrow will be better still.


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14