Thanks again for the advice. It's mostly what I thought, which is a relief. It's incredibly challenging to change that mind frame of my WAW not being my W. Especially around people that have known us for a long time.
Yes, having no expectations is key. I'm nervous about her cancelling for the FT appt, as you said Sandi2. Guess we will see tomorrow.
Starsky, I have started to reconnect with some friends that I hadn't seen for awhile. Life kept us busy and kids added to that. Also started to play a bit of golf, but currently , having the kids with me all the time makes that a bit tricky. I do need to go out at night more. I've hesitated against that because before it was my WAW who would come and look after the kids. I don't like that setup. Definitely a goal for the next two weeks. I've got better support now from my family, so that's also a plus. Time constraints have been removed and they can help more if needed.
My friend is going to Vegas for a week, I may go down for a few days, if I'm up for it. I hesitate to leave my kids right now as they need me, or so I feel. At the same time, I want to be strong and show leadership for them.
Thanks for the help on how to act tonight, and I'm feeling a lot of what you both are saying is the way to go. Guess your vets for a reason .
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