If you haven't already, you need to recognize that you can only control yourself ...W will do what she wants to do. Btw, i know women in there late 40s/early 50s still on that path of coming and going as they please, doing what they want when they want - mind you they are D or in lousy marriages. If you cant deal with it and she cant change, well you need to figure out what you want. A divorce takes one person a M takes two to work. So focus on you, be cordial during D process (don't know how long it takes in TN but I still have 5 months here), etc. and hopefully she may not go through with the D. It's unfortunate that she's not still with you because she cant see your 180s. Maybe some of the vets here will have some advice for you. Good luck to you too and God bless.
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14
